So, do you (or would you) go to a family dance? Why? or Why not?
Here's my opinion: I do not understand the purpose of having a
family dance at church. I'm not trying to have a bad attitude. It just makes no sense to me. When I went to dances as a teenager, I went to dance and flirt with cute boys. Even when I was old enough to date, going to dances was not the fun part of the date. Sure it was fun to dance a little with my date but mostly we went to just get pictures. It wasn't about the dancing at all. So now that I am happily married, I honestly do not see the purpose of having a church dance. I'm not interested in dancing with anyone but my husband. Trying to keep track of all my kids while holding my baby and trying to dance in a dimly lit church gym surrounded by other happily married couples and all their little kiddos running around just sounds like stress to me.So now that I've sort of explained my thoughts here, maybe you can share with me what I am missing. In all fairness, I have never been to a dance since I have been married so I don't know what I am missing. I would love to hear your opinions. Our church has this dance every year so give me your opinion as to why I should or should not support this dance next year.
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I don't get the idea of a family dance. Why? Are there separate activities for the kids? Is the idea to let your kids run rampant around the cultural hall while you try and enjoy a dance with your sweetheart? Doesn't work for me. It's not fun, it's stressful.
An adult-only dance? Sure, I can see the appeal of that.
I say next year get a sitter and go have your own fun!
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I agree with Holly and you, a family dance would not be enjoyable. Our ward is having an adult only sweetheart dance this week, that we will be going to. I'm going more for the socializing than for the dancing. I'll be lucky if I can get my hubby to dance at all.
I've never heard of a family dance but I wouldn't be interested in going either.
I say go if it works for you and don't if it doesn't.
I have lived in two wards that have done family dances, and we went to them both. They were pretty focused on the Primary age kids--kids dancing together in groups and with their parents. I think Don and I danced together once or twice. One of them had a square dance caller who taught everyone a little about square dancing. The other had a mixture of music. People didn't really get into the square dancing as much. The other they did.
Some of the parents went out and did their disco or break dancing moves from times gone by when the appropriate music came on, and daddies danced with their daughters and moms with their sons. There was lots of silliness and laughing, and I think it was a good bonding time overall. People let their guard down more than is typical at ward functions, although I don't think the youth got into it as much as the kids. I would go to another one if it was offered.
A family dance??? N.O. WE had a sweetheart dance a few weekends ago. A bunch of couple's got together to go out to eat, but the dance was LAME. No one dancing, strange music. I figure I probably won't go again. I thought the whole purpose of church dances was for supervising single "dating." Guess I was wrong.
I agree with you... Tons of kids running around while I'm trying too keep control of mine sounds like stress!! Plus, Josh dance Hah!! Never!
In my opinion, i think someone was just trying to create a fun activity for the ward to do. I mean it would be hard to think of fun things to do for so many different people of different age groups. It sounds creative and possibly fun, it's all in what you make it. Someone was really brave to try to suggest such an idea and then try to follow through with it all. Sometimes i think we ask too many "why's" and not enough "why not's". I love you
We went to a family dance when our kids were small and I hated it. The music was strange and there were so many little kids running around, it was crazy. We ended up just sitting and talking while trying to keep our small ones off the dance floor. Not my idea of fun! I wouldn't feel bad at all about not going. It sounds like you had more fun and did more bonding with your family than if you had been at the church dance!
Our stake had a sweethearts' dance this past Saturday, which we missed, because hubby is ill and and the children too, and finding a babysitter who isn't ill is like, impossible...
I was bummed. Hubby and I really love to dance. BUT, I don't think I would enjoy it with my children there. Especially with babies, I really don't see the point. If it's just for couples, and you can find a babysitter, I am soooo there! I'm not sure I would take the children to a family dance, until they are a few years older.
I think I'm mostly with you on this one. ;)
I love being in Young Womens because I get to go to all the dances (without my kids) and act like a teenager and dance with my girls. Of course, on the slow songs I have to hide out on the sidelines and try to look obviously older and married because I've been asked to dance a time or two by some unknowing poor boy. "I'm married and 30, do you still want to dance?" is usually my response.
We have been to a few of these and had a good time. The kids loved bieng able to run and "dance" all over. We had a great DJ who did fun songs and had props for different songs. I'm not sure how teens would like it, but our experience was a lot of fun. The twins were just big enough to get in on the action. I guess it's all in how you feel as to whether you go or don't. My husband isn't much of a dancer, but I got him to join in on the fun sometimes. Of course, I'm one of the strange ones who went to all the Church dances and DANCED! :) To each his own!
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